Let your child know how interested you are in what he or she has to say. Show how carefully you consider his or her opinions.

It is good to add “do this instead” when you must tell your child "no." Substituting a permissible activity takes the child’s mind off the thing forbidden, and usually promotes a more positive reaction.

When answering your child’s questions or reviewing spelling words, suggest that he or she look up the answer in a reference source. Help your child find the answer, but don’t be too quick to “give” it.

Speak proudly and frequently about your child’s strengths.

Help your child find time each day that is his or hers alone. Children need time to think, dream, plan, make decisions, and free their minds from problems.

Allow your child to experience the consequences of actions whenever possible. A lost toy, for example, might not be replaced.

Proudly display your child’s accomplishments at home. No matter how old your child may be, recognition of good work and accomplishments is very important.